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No, I don’t have kids. But I still ain’t got it.

Updated: Jun 13

Is it just me or is it that people with children no matter what age, assume that because you do not have children you have “extra”? Extra time, extra money, extra resources etc.? Sorry to break it to you but, no, I don’t have kids….but I still ain’t got it!

Now before I begin, this is in absolutely no shade to the people with children. I want children one day however, I am honestly grateful that God has not blessed me with them yet because chile, these bills! And while yes, I know that people with children have bills as well, and more power to you all, however, your childless friends may not have to work as hard as you do where some parents have to work 2 or 3 jobs because you have children. While they may not have to, alot of us still do! Here are a few things to consider when asking your niece, grandson, cousins or siblings, “Aye…can I get…” and why you might be surprised when they say..”naw…I ain’t even got it.”

  1. Dream chasers- There are a lot of entrepreneurs who put money into things such as clothing and music dreams (that they may not reach but they are able to put time into them BECAUSE they don’t have children). People with children use their extra resources for…their children! But, for the childless entrepreneur their mindset may often be, “my business is my child, it has to be fed to grow, I have to pay to support it and supply for it. So, no, I don’t have extra time or money to give out.” and this is very valid.

  1. Cost of living- First of all…yall seen the meme that said these can’t be the same bills our parents were paying when we were young? Well, that meme didn’t tell No lies! The cost of living has skyrocketed and it will continue to increase as well. Now, alot of people find it hard to even afford a 1 bedroom apartment by themselves and have to have one or a few room mates just to cover rent, then you have to factor in food, transportation etc. with no form of assistance at all. (Not to say that all parents receive assistance either I’m just sayin’)

  1. No obligation- Meaning…we are not obligated to donate to anybody’s cause “just because.” I had a friend tell me a story of his brother asking him for money and he told him no and the brother got mad at him saying, “You act like you don’t got it but I know you do.” His response was, “I got my own bills to pay and even if I did have it, I don’t HAVE to give it to you.” Nobody can tell you how to feel, but it doesn’t make sense to be upset with how somebody else spends their hard earned money.

SO, to all my childless friends out there, just know, you are not alone. It’s ok to say no, I have it but I don’t have it for that…or…I just “ain’t got it.” & as always, stay FLY.

 
 
 

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