“You can’t pour from an empty cup…”

When my friend/coworker said this to me, I heard her. I THOUGHT I was listening. But sometimes we get so caught up in whats going on in our heads that important information goes in one ear and out the other. You might come back to it eventually to ponder but how often do we actually process the advice and information that is given to us that may be very valuable to our well being and development? I have gotten so many different perspectives over the course of my life and so much advice but ultimately it was up to me to make my own choices and decide whether or not I was going to heed to that information.

I have been a caseworker or a form of a counselor for the past 3 years since I graduated college. I am 27 years old and I help people navigate through their lives, helping them find jobs, find housing and balance their emotional wellbeing while also providing them with resources. And I am here to tell you that when you’re still navigating through life yourself it can get pretty stressful. I am still developing myself and figuring out my own life too. But I am good at my job and its really what I’ve been destined to do since I was younger. Sometimes, no most of the time……actually I will go ahead and say ALL of the time lol, when you are strong, you need a great support system to back you up, to remind you why its important to keep going. You need that boost. (On a sidenote: Im very grateful for the support system I have developed.)

I find that social media has made us feel so comfortable with connecting with people NOT face to face, that we are lacking that connectedness that a human NEEDS. Its hard to live your life giving and giving, and not having anybody to give back to you. So YOU need to give back to you. You have to spend time developing yourself, figuring out what your true likes and dislikes are, what makes you happy and what makes you tick. So that you can let other people know.

You also must be very careful who you give to. Because there are alot more takers in the world than there are givers. These people are leeches. They leech off of anything you have to offer, even energy. They will come and suck you dry, and leave you depleted with nothing else to offer and they don’t pour back into you.